To Tell Or Not To Tell: That is the ?

[Dizzy]

So say you have a friend who's consistently cheating on their SO. Do you tell the SO or don't you?


Totally hypothetical question...


K shoot!

[Roddika]

this is a toughie...

i think it would depend on how good of friends you are with the friend thats cheating and how close are you to the SO...

though i know id appreciate it if someone told me that my SO was cheating on me BUT if the girl that told me wasnt that close to me, i might think that shes just telling me that so she can get with him or something...depends

[indecentspeech]

it depends on how far they are into the relationship.

i wouldn't if someone is married and has kids.

[yankz]

if the cheater was closer to me than that cheatee, I would keep a hands off approach. It's sad but necessary. If I was closer to the cheatee...spots would be blown up with the quickness

[MonicaC_NYC]

nope..a former friend of mine is a world class cheater..i was really good friends with her..she knew i didnt agree with her POV but i didnt stop her..its not my business..theres only so much u can do. if their SO doesnt see the way things are changing its not ur business to tell them..it'll just get messy

[Dizzy]

Originally Posted by Roddika

this is a toughie...

i think it would depend on how good of friends you are with the friend thats cheating and how close are you to the SO...

though i know id appreciate it if someone told me that my SO was cheating on me BUT if the girl that told me wasnt that close to me, i might think that shes just telling me that so she can get with him or something...depends

your watching too many indian soap operas...lol!

[indecentspeech]

LOL!

No but shes right, that happens. usually people don't want to know their S/O is cheating, especially if they are in that puppy love dating relationship. And if you tell them they might just turn around and say that you are making it up for your own ends.

[Dizzy]

Originally Posted by MonicaC_NYC

nope..a former friend of mine is a world class cheater..i was really good friends with her..she knew i didnt agree with her POV but i didnt stop her..its not my business..theres only so much u can do. if their SO doesnt see the way things are changing its not ur business to tell them..it'll just get messy

i'd bitch slap my friend into dumping the guy before she walks all over him...that's not cool. Is this one of the reasons why she's a former friend?

[indecentspeech]

Here's my thing, if someone is a cheater (atleast to the level you describe it Monica) wouldn't that person's whole character come into question? I mean wouldn't you be worried about her backstabbing you when she got the chance? I would.

[Neetz]

Depends on the relationship, depends on the relationship you have with them, depends upon numerous circumstances actually. I will say one thing tho, I have seen it often times where even when you tell the dude or chick they are being cheated on..they just don't believe it, they wish to carry on in complete denial and often times they end up despising you for even mentioning such a thing.

[MonicaC_NYC]

Originally Posted by indecentspeech

Here's my thing, if someone is a cheater (atleast to the level you describe it Monica) wouldn't that person's whole character come into question? I mean wouldn't you be worried about her backstabbing you when she got the chance? I would.

hence the term former friend.

yes dizzy d--its a reason not the reason..we just grew apart...got sick of her baby i need attention attitude...im pretty sure thats where the cheating stemmed from..the need for attention...and the fear of being alone

[Tweak Head]

no...none of my business..

[MissS]

No.

Their business is their business. I wouldn't "tell" anything, because I usually can't judge something 100%. If I was asked directly because my friend was suspicious of their partner, and I could confidently conclude they were definately cheating, then maybe I would say something, but I wouldn't put it across conclusively. What my friend wants to believe is up to him or her. Going against that would just turn me in to an enemy.

[PetPetz]

don't tell, sooner or later with the person they are with or the person down the line it will catch up with them. You are entitled to give your opinion to the friend but don't be a whistle blower

[Krypto]

Best friends you tell.

All others, don't get involved.

[Dizzy]

Originally Posted by Krypto

Best friends you tell.

All others, don't get involved.

If you didn't tell me and knew my "SO" was cheating on me...u'd be a dead man...like stuck in my freezer on a meat clever dead..

[PetPetz]

^^ but would it hold it against him forever? I think you would want to put the "SO" in the freezer, and go off somewhere with your bffs

[abhigames]

do any of you guys ever like glamourize cheating? cuz that happens sometimes....like esepcially with guys...its like the more girls u get with + you have a SO = success.

[PetPetz]

^^ do you get annoyed when your guy friends brag to you about that?

[MonicaC_NYC]

nope i think its disgusting. grow up. if u dont wanna be in a relationship man or woman up and call it quits. no one holds a gun to ur head and says u have to be with that person. dont be scared of letting go of a "safety net." and if u love ur SO, stick to ur words.